Dating with benefits
Of the women that I’ve had a casual friends with benefits relationship, all of them wanted to turn me into a boyfriend.A ‘real’ relationship…And if it’s done right, most guys will go for it.
But more on that in a bit…Usually, the random hookup thing can turn into more.You probably told yourself that you can just keep this little arrangement nice and safe for you both. I don’t care” to “Now I want him.” And he WILL sense this. Most of the time a man experiences the complete opposite – a woman who pounces on him and wants him to jump into a relationship as soon as humanly possible. But you’ll rationalize that he’s “not that bad” the longer you’re with him.All it takes is that one extra time where you suggest a meeting on a Tuesday night for dinner… You can keep your head clear and have a solid frame of comparison when there’s more than one guy in the picture.Your fingers will itch to pick up your phone and text him the notion.But you have to keep the boundaries as men in friends with benefits situations. Unless you’re just ridiculously busy or on the rebound from another relationship, you will eventually want this guy to settle in with you.I’ve even been on the “desire” side of the equation myself a few times – where I was the one wanting the full-time relationship.
And I’ll reveal to you that it’s not always the “men are commitment-phobes” behavior you might think.
There’s also the risk of him finding someone else he’s interested in before you’ve had a chance to work your magic.
You can take some consolation in knowing that he does, chances are the new girl will just make all the classic mistakes of trying to make him commit to her too early, and eventually you can pick up where you left off.
If you make this new arrangement of boyfriend-girlfriend come up before HE starts wanting it himself, you’ll risk ruining it.(NOTE: Most women never figure out how to do this – which is why I created the “Passion Phrases” program…)If you’re patient, he will eventually want to test-drive this relationship .
Then you’ll know you’ve got him…I need to warn you, though – After a few fun nights spent with your FWB, you may start to wonder if you should meet up for coffee, go see a movie together, or do something else with him.
Just don’t let that challenge of him jumping into this girl’s arms make you panic and push you into any kind of moves, okay? You need to have around to keep you from setting your sights on this guy too quickly. having two guys that give you attention and adoration is definitely better than just one.